How to Cope with Cyberbullying: Tips for Parents and Kids

Cyberbullying refers to using digital platforms like social media, websites, and apps to embarrass or threaten another person.

While it’s different from traditional bullying that takes place in person — like in schools and children’s playgrounds — studies show that cyberbullying can still cause victims to experience loneliness, anxiety, low self-esteem, and even suicidal thoughts.

Is Cyberbullying Inevitable?

It is natural for parents to worry about cyberbullying given that it can happen at any time of the day. Children and teens could be spending time on platforms where harmful messages can be easily spread and seen by many, including their peers.

I can recall one of my clients telling me how he was constantly receiving hurtful messages on social media, and that it felt like there was no escape. “Even when I was at home, the bullying continued.”

Cyberbullying feels pervasive, especially these days, since digital devices are part of our daily lives. However, it is not inevitable. Young people can and should be taught how to use technology responsibly.

How Parents Can Help

Parents can start by explaining what cyberbullying is, and share examples like hurtful comments, spreading rumors, and sharing embarrassing photos. If your child feels that a joke or comment doesn’t feel right, they need to trust their instincts. 

In our How To Protect Yourself From Cyberbullying handout, we also stress the importance of keeping personal information private. Parents should emphasize this point with their child.

How to Cope with Cyberbullying

Here are 6 coping strategies for cyberbullying to share with your child:

1. Don’t share personal details: Avoid sharing your address, phone number, or passwords online. Don’t post sensitive or embarrassing photos, and be cautious about who you share your personal experiences with.
2. Save messages: Save “evidence” of cyberbullying, such as taking screenshots, and talk to a parent, teacher, or counselor about what’s happening.
3. Don’t respond: You might feel tempted to react to hurtful messages, but you do not need to respond.
4. Block the cyberbully: Block the person who is cyberbullying on all platforms to discontinue communication.
5. Immediately report: Report any incidents of cyberbullying to the site administrator, and any crime related activities to your school, parents, or the police.
6. Talk to a trusted adult: Share any online messages that make you feel sad, scared, or uncomfortable with a parent or caring adult.

Creating a safe online environment is every person’s responsibility. When our children know their role, they’re less likely to do things that could jeopardize themselves and others.

For additional tips on coping with cyberbullying feel free to check out StopBullying.gov.

*This article was originally published in our email newsletter on October 22, 2024.